“You have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” ~Louise Hay
Since I was a young girl, I always thought that there was something fundamentally wrong with me.
So I always tried to fix myself to be worthy. To feel worthy.
No baby is born thinking they aren’t worthy, and neither was I—or you.
It all began with our humble beginnings.
I had a traumatized father, who now I understand was struggling to deal with his own pain he carried from his childhood.
He would get angry and torture me. Tell me that I am nothing and nobody. Tell me I am unlovable. It was a feeling that I was unlovable.
As children, all we do is believe what our parents tell us. We cannot understand or fathom why they would say these things to us if they weren’t true. So, we internalize our belief that we’re not good enough.
It is difficult to live with this feeling of being unloved or not being accepted for who we really are.
Here are five things I did to feel worthy but ended up ruining my own life.
1. I tried to fix and please people.
I wanted my father to be happy. It was my life. Whether I was going to have a good day or bad day was all dependent on my parents’…