“Sometimes we motivate ourselves by thinking of what we want to become. Sometimes we motivate ourselves by thinking about who we don’t ever want to be again.” ~Shane Niemeyer
At twenty-one, I decided to stop drinking.After eight years of drinking heavily, I was unsure about how to date after a heavy eight-year binge.
Will I have fun again? Will I experience FOMO? How will I handle stress? What will I drink when we go out? What will I drink on dates? What will sober sexual encounters be like? Omg!
These questions paralyzed me, as I couldn’t imagine my life without alcohol, yet I couldn’t imagine my life with it either. When I stopped drinking, I felt like I was giving up on my attractiveness and compatibility to a possible partner.
That couldn’t have been further from the truth.
Over time, I’ve realized plenty of people don’t mind that I’m sober; some even like it or are sober too. Ultimately, I found I didn’t really care what others thought because I was okay with myself.
It was true that, slowly but steadily, my dating, sexual, and romantic life improved. Here’s how.
Feeling My Emotions
Alcohol seemed to be the answer to everything. Stressed? Drink. Excited? Drink. Sad? Drink.